Thursday, 26 March 2009


'Masculinity is bestowed. A boy learns who he is and what he's got from a man, or the company of men. He cannot learn it any other place. He cannot learn it from other boys, and he cannot learn it from the world of women. The plan from the beginning of time was that his father would lay the foundation for a young boy's heart, and pass on to him that essential knowledge and confidence in his strength. Dad would be the first man in his life, and forever the most important man. Above all, he would answer the question, Do I have what it takes? Am I a man? for his son.' J. Eldredge.
Being a father is not about being a Superhero. It's about being there. Growing up my father was there but he wasn't there if you know what I mean. He was physically present but his emotions and heart were out of reach. I grew up with no self-esteem wondering if my existence really mattered. I went down the road of trying to earn my right to exist with things like good grades at school and so on but I felt like a hamster on a wheel as these achievements didn't fill that gaping hole inside so I tried harder only to end up the same.
Having a child of my own, my fear was that I wouldn't do it right, that I wouldn't be a good father because I never had a positive role model. But I learned that I don't have to be a Superhero, I just have to be there. There to give my attention and my love, to listen eagerly and participate, to read a bedtime story and be there at the school play.
God has allowed me to sow into other young men who have grown up without a male role model like myself and give them the encouragement and support they crave for. Just to be there.
My desire is to see older men giving of their time to sow into young men growing up who have no father figure to look up to and showing an example of the Father heart of God who is the ultimate 'Father to the fatherless'.

Sunday, 22 March 2009

What is a man for?

(from a fantastic book 'Wild at Heart' by John Eldredge for all you frustrated guys and all you girls who want to understand us guys better)

What is a man for? If you know what something is designed to do, then you know its purpose in life. A retriever loves the water, a lion loves to hunt, a hawk loves to soar. It's what they're made for. Desire reveals design, and design reveals destiny. In the case of humans beings, our design is also revealed by our desires. Let's take adventure. God gives Adam and all his sons after him an incredible mission: rule and subdue, be fruitful and multiply. This is permission to do a heck of a lot more than cross the street. Most men think they are simply here on earth to kill time- and it's killing them. But the truth is precisely the opposite. The secret longing of your heart, whether it's to build a boat and sail it, to write a symphony and play it, to plant a field and care for it- those are the things you were made to do. Explore, build, conquer- you don't have to tell a boy to do those things for the simple reason that it is his purpose. But it's going to take risk, and danger, and there's the catch. Are we willing to live with the level of risk God invites us to?
Let's take another desire- why does a man long for a battle to fight? Because when we enter the story at the beginning of time in Genesis, we step into a world at war. The lines have already been drawn. Evil is waiting to make its next move. Man is not born into a sitcom or a soap opera, he is born into a world at war. This is not Home Improvement, it's Saving Private Ryan. There will be many, many battles to fight on many different battlefields.
And finally, why does Adam long for a beauty to rescue? Because there is Eve. He is going to need her, and she is going to need him. While the serpent is tempting Eve, Adam is standing right there: "She also gave some to her husband, who was with her. Then he ate it too" Genesis 3:6 NLT. What does he do? Nothing. He says not a word, doesn't lift a finger. He won't risk, he won't fight, and he won't rescue Eve. Our first father gave in to paralysis. He denied his very nature and went passive. And every man after him carries in his heart now the same failure. Every man repeats the sin of Adam, every day. We won't risk, we won't fight, and we won't rescue Eve. We truly are a chip off the old block.
What did Adam do? He hides. We are hiding every last one of us. Well aware that we, too, are not what we were meant to be. We hide in our office, at the gym, behind the newspaper and mostly behind our personality.

God used this book to highlight things that needed changing in my life and help me down the road to the destiny he has for me and if he can do it for me... He can do it for you!!!!
Hello there.
I've posted a photo of myself down to the left with another 'poster'! (Did you like that?) His name is Pat and we go back a long way.

My blog will be anything and everything that I can think of to bore you so don't be too expectant that you will leave here a different person with a completely different perspective on life and so on.

I'll end for now with one of my favourite quotes from Teddy Roosevelt,
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly... who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who have never known neither victory nor defeat."